Do your Children Fight and Argue – Part 2
Words – They have the power to claim the moment. Your children are learning this. They listen. They learn. They repeat.
Sit for a minute with me today – and really ponder the example your children have in their communication skills.
Let’s be honest.
Children have a will of their own, and their words to their siblings are going to reflect what is going on INSIDE their heart.
Don’t be so surprised when they act out what hasn’t been changed on the inside.
Let’s Make Progress!
1.)Make a diligent effort every day for one week to focus on YOUR words and tone with your whole family. This includes your spouse.
2.)Listen to Your Children communicate. Are they speaking from anger, frustration, selfishness, or just plain childishness .
3.)Address the arguments IMMEDIETELY. Calmly. And without condemnation.
4.) ASK your children to sit separately until every one is able to communicate about the situation. This is the time to ASK questions.
5.)Be prepared. Each child will have their own reason, story, and exclamation for their part in the argument.
…This is where you CALMLY remind them that there is never a reason good enough, or worthy of treating others in this manner.
(Their reasons may seem valid – but they were all wrong – in the way they handled their dispute.)
6.)Get to the Conscience. This is a HUGE proponent in keeping the next argument from happening.
I ask my children – “Do you know what your conscience is?”
“When you were saying those mean and angry words to your brother or sister, was there any thing in your heart and mind that told you to stop. Or that was telling you that your words weren’t very nice?”
This is your conscience.
We then go from there – on learning to LISTEN to our conscience. Learning to create a healthy conscience comes from filling their hearts and minds with what is right, good, and perfect to the Lord.
Do you make INTENTIONAL time every day to fill their hearts, souls and minds with tools to create a healthy conscience?
Our Words – The impact of our tongue will mold our relationships. Create a new environment of soft words in your home.
Step #1 – Creating a Healthy Conscience in our children & Teaching them to control their words.
Input = Output.
Share with me friends. Is this something that you have tried before? It can be progress for the weary mom – who listens to arguing, complaining and fighting all day long.
Proverbs 15:1 – “A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.”
Can I pray for you?