They Fight Like Cats And Dogs

“My children fight with each other all of the time.”

“I don’t even know if my children love one another.”

“They never get along”.

“My children say such mean things to their siblings.”

“Nothing I do seems to make a difference.”


What you are reading are some of the most common words in my inbox, and to my ears – as I visit with other mom’s and read their emails.

Are YOU a mom that is dealing with children that Fight Like Cats and Dogs ?

{I am going to be brutally honest here -This is not a major struggle in my home – my children have spits and spats,, and  they tussle ,,,but it is not an everyday battle.  And so you may be wondering why I would feel comfortable writing about this?}

You asked me to.  I listened.

Can I just say – This is a Myth – Siblings DON’T have to fight like Cat’s and Dogs!

You tell me that I wouldn’t believe how badly your children fight.  I do believe it. 

The fighting, arguing and mean-spirited behavior is what we are talking about today…

Will you use this checklist to sit and think for a few minutes with me?

In My Home, Have I Ever Approached The Following Area With My Children:

 -What is a healthy conscience and are we learning to listen and follow it?

-What does the Bible say about love and treatment of others?  Are our hearts truly desiring to obey God’s Word

-What are our House Rules, and Where Does God’s Word Fit into those?

-Are we showing this same character to friends and people outside of our home?

-Why are we angry and how should we handle it correctly? – Conflict Resolution

-Would I behave this way in public  – and why not?

-Where is my true heart for my family and who they are in Christ?

-What examples am I setting for communication and repentance?


This is Just a Start.  Once you have evaluated the questions above – you might have a grasp where the arguing and sibling tension is coming from.

Any issues that arise in my home, I see as a crack in our foundation.  Something that CAN be filled in and repaired.  With some diligence and work.  Love, Instruction and God’s Word will be the tools.



This series will continue – with hopes that you ears wil hear the ringing of laughter and less fighting between your children!

Is this speaking to your heart today?  Perhaps you have given up hope for any peace this summer?

How can I pray for you with this?

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  • Reply
    Heather Merrill
    June 21, 2012 at 9:13 am

    Thank you for this post.. please continue with the series!!
    Eagerly awaiting your next one:)

    • Reply
      June 21, 2012 at 12:00 pm

      Oh Heather – Thank you for encouraging me to continue with this. It is such a burden to so many moms, isn’t it?  Love to you my friend!

    • Reply
      June 21, 2012 at 7:49 pm

      Next post in series is up!

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    June 21, 2012 at 10:52 am

    Great post September!  I’m going to work through this checklist.  Thank you!

    • Reply
      June 21, 2012 at 11:50 am

      Thanks Mandy!   Summers can be peaceful – can’t they!  🙂

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    J Wagner
    June 21, 2012 at 11:23 am

    It is one of my missions to encourage other parents that sibling rivalry does not have to be accepted as normal!  I actually just linked your last post yesterday on my blog ( with my SR series.  I’ll have to link the rest of your post as well! 

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      June 21, 2012 at 11:49 am

      That is such a great mission!  I truly feel for the moms that are dealing with arguing every day.  We can all encourage one another!  Thanks for linking!

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