You know – The moment you discover that you are biting your lip, your tongue is in the side of your cheek, or your head is tipped sideways, and your hands are on your hips. The eyes sometimes slant, or the eyebrows furrow. Perhaps your chin juts out a little and your eyes are twice their size?
My kids have seen this. A sometimes sobering, and yet very serious moment of discovery in a day, can bring this look out with a flash.
Sometimes – The Look, can stop a child in his/her tracks. It can cause them to halt their words, or have complete remorse for whatever wrong action may have occurred.
The Look – Can also be crushing, demeaning, and diminishing of any hopes of positive communication – to understand the Whole Story, and to allow our children room for some grace.
The Look – Sometimes passed down through generations. A promise we make ourselves we will “never” copy that “look” that our mothers did to us.
This gives me the biggest chuckle. I have been there. I have done that. And now, my daughters laugh and tell me the same.
Problem is – The Look can also be a “Joy-Robber.”
Take a peek, and tell me what your reaction would have been.
Waking up one morning to kiddos in their jammies, and hearing silent whispers of “creativity” from the woods.
“Good Morning Mommy. We have a surprise for you.”
If I HAVE to show you mommy – this is what we are doing.
And this… We found daddy’s hammer… and… nails. A LOT of them.
We found this really nice tree….
A few paintbrushes, and a can of paint!
“Mommy – Did you know that sticks work well for painting too!”
And we did all of this for you mommy! It is our new fort!
The Look – of Joy. Accomplishment. Excitement.
And I need to mirror that.
Do I have what it takes to find the good in the unexpected, and see beyond the mess and mayheim?
Moms – It can be so hard to not squash the moments with dismay or perfection.
Do you have what it takes today? One day at a time – Choosing to let my Looks – Mirror their Joy.
Or do you keep finding yourself with THE LOOK?
You will love stopping by for a visit with Jessica at Muthering Heights – Congratulations Jessica!