How many times have you heard this as a mom? It could be from eating their vegetables, to saying hello to a new person, completing a chore, or schoolwork.
Can’t – the universal code for kids to display their lack of perseverance and effort.
A pivotal point in a parents conscience – to allow the child to believe this, or to re-train their thinking and spirit – to do hard things.
My husband developed this little saying when our children were little, and his has stuck around for 21 years.
Can’t means won’t.
It is only seconds after the words, ” I can’t” escape a childs mouth here, and they are quickly to be reminded of this little saying.
We don’t hear those words often , or see too much in this area in our home because we have discovered this amazing foundation to Inspire our Children to not only do hard things, but to pursue excellence.
Inspire your children to do hard things:
~Encourage them to try new things on a regular basis
~Make hard things fun
~Bring a Character Quality into the conversation
~Remind them of the blessings – to themselves and others
~Remember that this is a training ground in a world full of hard things
~Prepare their hearts daily for the sacrifice of hard work, others-oriented living and perseverance
~Use the Bible and great people from History as examples to show your children the rewards of hard things
What Do Hard Things Look Like:
(For the Younger Children)
*Tying shoes, zipping zippers, new chores, making new friends, speaking to adults with eye contact, sitting still in church or events, helping with responsibilities, schoolwork, and more
(For the Older Children)
*Learning a new skill set or accomplishing a chore
*Resolving conflicts with their friends and family
*Singing, speaking or presentations before a crowd
*Exercise or Sports activities
*Speaking to adults
*Stand-alone on their convictions in a fallen world
She was shaking. “I can’t do this mom.” Shaking and pale. How can everyone else make it look so easy?
She turned to walk away from it all. She was afraid of heights. I understood this fear completely.
“You can do this, and I will be with you every second. If you never try, you will always wonder.. wish… regret.”
Remember – This is about trust. She moves slowly frozen, but begins to harness up for the climb.
She gets to the top and cannot move. Many, many minutes pass before she will even look down at me. I am quoting Scripture and calming her – telling her half the path is over.
She turns her back, steps off the ledge and makes her way to the victory of overcoming – I can’t.
Can’t Means Won’t…
Bring your children’s hearts to a full understanding that they don’t have to do ALL things in their own strength. Fear or lack of perseverance can be crippling to any one. Even adults.
Philippians 4:13 – “I can do ALL things through Christ who strengthens me.”
Next in this series – Pursuing Excellence – What does that look like?
What are the “I can’t(s)” in your home lately?