You’re Going To Miss The Good Stuff Trying To Avoid The Hard

The child you can read from the moment they open their eyes in the morning? It's either a good day or a potentially bad day.  You know it right from the get-go. I get it.  All the way. The builder has learned to read me and I have … [Continue reading]

When Media Abandons You (and you’re left with the Truth)

"I don't want to talk about it. Can I leave the room?"  A topic that is all the buzz around the globe and was brought before my teens this week by sources that I didn't see coming. I wasn't fooled.  She wasn't bothered by the disturbing topics, the … [Continue reading]

The Truth About Raising A Generation (pulling thorns and planting seeds)

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Choosing to nurse my babies was a game changer for my family, the generation before me.  A little surprise, a little shame to shake off and a new way of doing things was my first brave decision to raise the next generation. If I had know that this … [Continue reading]

A Mother’s Monday Prayer (and a simple plea to go easy on yourself)

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If the weather hadn't warmed up to a grand 29 degrees on that Sabbath morning, I would have stayed right under the warm ivory down comforter with my builder. But, temperatures like this have been nill in these parts for weeks, and it felt like spring … [Continue reading]

Speaking Your Child’s Love Language (learning to love your children for who they are)

The moments that your words are preaching to yourself and not your children. "You need to realize that living in this home is like living in a town." "There are so many people, so many personalities, so many needs, as well as individual … [Continue reading]

When Motherhood Knocks The Stuffing Right Out Of You

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The ten year old mini version of my builder man has a way of getting under my skin. There, I said it. I could dance around the motherhood lingo for hours in a small group or take all of the blame for not getting him. But, the truth in raising a … [Continue reading]

A Plea From The Next Generation

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Being a new parent is awesome. It really is just that. I am constantly being infused with hope and wonder for such good things to come. However, there is one thing that seems to keep coming against Bethany and I in our parenting, and though I … [Continue reading]

Dear Parent Of A Bully

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As a mom of four, one of whom happens to be on the autism spectrum, I am all too familiar with bullying and the damage caused by bullying.  Bullying comes in many disguises.  And, bullying comes from many people- peers and adults. This is what I … [Continue reading]

Keeping Your Home In Sync With Your Life (simply put: a chore system for your family)

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My home will never be spotless.  I honest to goodness gave up on caring about shiny railings, spotless windows and neatly folded towels in my home while raising a house full of children. We clean and we scrub and we apply elbow grease, … [Continue reading]

When Fear Keeps You From The Good Stuff

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Ice Skating terrified me.  Right to the brink of never skating again. Falling through the ice as a young child, away from the deep end of a dock on a very dark, frozen lake was my last time ice skating. And I was fine with that.   There is … [Continue reading]